Showing posts with label ruining. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ruining. Show all posts

Monday, April 18, 2016

Why Women Leave Men

If you are worried that your wife or girlfriend is about to leave you, or has already left you, you may want an answer to the question:"why women leave men?"  The truth of the matter is that its probably not what you think, and there can be several reasons.
In any long term relationship things pile up.  Little frustrations, hurts, insensitive remarks can all add up over a period of time and each little thing is like a brick in a wall.  After a while you will have one very big wall.  Thats the point where one party will throw their hands up and say Enough!" and leave.  The important thing is to make sure your relationship never gets to that point.
One thing you have to do is un-learn much of what youve been told about women and what they want.  If you think women are needy, and high maintenance you need to re-evaluate your thinking (of course some women are that way, but not most of them).  While this may sound stupid here is something you should try: stop thinking of your woman as a woman, instead think of her as a person.  Treat her the same way you like people to treat you.
One of the biggest mistakes men make is they either treat their woman like a whore, a surrogate mommy, or they go to the complete opposite side of the spectrum and put her on a pedestal where they treat her like shes made of porcelain.  The best thing to do is treat her like a human being: a unique individual that has her own mind, needs, and wants. Get to know the real woman, not the person you want her to be, or think she should be. 
Dont lump all women together.  Dont assume your wife or girlfriend likes a certain thing or should act a certain way just because some other woman (or your mom) does.  More than likely you have several male friends.  Do you treat each one of them the exact same way, or do you modify your behavior (slightly) for each unique relationship you have?
Women leave men because they are unsatisfied in one way or another.  Each relationship is different but at the end of the day your wife or girlfriend will leave because she is not getting enough of her needs met, its as simple as that. 
Most women want their husband or boyfriend to be a friend and confidant.  They want someone who acts like they actually like them.  Many men dont act like they even like their women and they certainly dont treat them like a trusted friend.
Women have sexual needs just like men.  Our society has done a huge disservice to men and women because it tells men they have this huge sex drive and that its ok to pick up women whenever they want to and that women have to be good girls who will only have sex with their husband.
The fact of the matter is that is not true. Women have the same sex drive as men, they are just conditioned to not act on it whenever the whim hits them.  What women dont want is to think that their man only wants them for sex.  Women will often disconnect from their men physically because even though they like sex they also like non-sexual physical contact and many men think they have to turn every incident of physical contact into a sexual encounter.  After a while your woman wont even want you to touch her, and shell find someone else.
So if you want to avoid having your wife or girlfriend leave and you want to  answer the question: "why women leave men?" just follow some of these simple tips and treat your women like someone who you like and love and your relationship should last a long time.
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Thursday, March 24, 2016

What To Do After Marriage To Avoid Ruining Your Relationship

After marriage, many relationships begin to stumble and fall. This doesnt seem like the way it should go. Marriage is supposed to be a great and glorious thing, and much of the time its exactly that, but the period after marriage can also be a dangerous one for many people.
The problem is that before marriage, the relationship was always building towards something. In the early days, you looked forward to the next date. Then you were looking forward to all the little events that make up the beginnings of a relationship. Meeting the parents, meeting the friends, all those little first that make up a life.
After all that, you start looking forward to the big events. You move in together, and thats a big thing. Then you start looking forward to the wedding, to the rest of your life. Then you get married. After marriage, things change.
After marriage, you start to wonder if this is all there. Most of the little events that you look forward to have happened and all youre left with is the rest of your life. While finding the right someone to spend your life with is one of the best parts of life, you have to wary of the ennui that comes after.
This is a period that can leave you or your new spouse failing, looking for something to give your life direction. This can lead to people doing stupid things as the new wedding glow wears off, cheating or starting fights.
Because of this, the after marriage period is not a time when you should sit by and just hope that everything will work out for the best. A marriage might last a lifetime for the lucky, but it wont get there without the two of you being in synch and working towards building something that last.
What you need to weather the after marriage doldrums is communication. You and your spouse need to make sure that the relationship is growing the way you want it to and that you both have the same expectations.
We often dont tell our spouses about the fears and uncertainty we have because were afraid that it will hurt them or just afraid that if we say it, it will really be true. But you need to tell them and talk about things because if you dont, the problems will grow and fester.
Instead of allowing that to happen, get into the habit of total honesty as early as you can. The earlier you start, the easier its going to be when and if problems do arrive. This means you both need to be able to work with hurt feelings, to get around and over them to get to the good times.
After marriage, you have the rest of your life. You owe it to yourself and your spouse to try as hard as you can to make it a life worth living. You may need more help than this article can give you, and thats fine. There are plenty of resources available to help you build a better, stronger marriage.
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