Men and women get out of relationships for different reasons, many of which are not understood by the opposite sex because mens and womens brains are wired differently. This makes things even more confusing. Some situations seem to be pretty straight-forward but most arent.
So before we tackle your goal of getting your ex back, lets take a look at why he or she isnt around in the first place.
Why do men leave relationships? Its pretty simple, really. They leave when they arent getting what they need. And one sure thing that they need is admiration and respect. It might be for that reason that they they left . . .and maybe they found it somewhere else. One of the most common reasons men give for leaving their wife or girlfriend is “No matter what I did, I couldn’t make her happy!”
Why do women leave relationships? They leave because they feel unappreciated and/or they leave because they are bored. What do you commonly hear from unhappy women? “He doesn’t appreciate a thing I do!”
Now, you might think that your exs reasons for leaving dont fit into one of those categories. You may be thinking, "my husband left me because I cheated on him." But why did you cheat on him in the first place? It probably has something to do with the fact that you werent getting the attention and appreciation you needed. Or maybe youre thinking. . .although thats not an excuse. Or maybe youre thinking "My girlfriend left me because I was never around." But ask yourself, why were you never around?
Now that youre not in continuous contact with your ex, you can take time to look at things more objectively. Use this time constructively to list all the positive and negative factors in your relationship. In the meantime, make sure you take care of yourself, eat healthy foods and exercise when possible.
Then, after youve had time to concentrate on yourself and look at your relationship with more objective eyes, you can think about making that first contact with your ex. Ask him or her out for coffee in a nonchalant manner. If he or she says yes, go out, talk about light non-threatening subjects and keep it short. At the end of the date, dont re-schedule another unless your ex suggests it. So, in answer to your question "Can I get my ex to love me again?" Yes, you can!
The date may go well, the date may go ok or the date may go terribly. In the last case, youll need to re-evaluate your situation and see if you want to continue trying later on or if you need to think about moving on.
But if the date goes well, you will see how the answer to "Can I Get My Ex to Love Me Again?" is "Yes, I can!"
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