A man who is serious about getting his ex girlfriend back will usually say hes repeatedly tried to tell her how much he loves her and needs her. Hes reassured her that hell change and the relationship will be different if she gives him a second chance. This kind of begging and pleading simply shows a woman that youre desperate and often drives them even further away.
Some men will try the opposite tactic to pleading and theyll turn to bribery. Buying her expensive gifts or taking her to fancy restaurants in an attempt to impress her wont work either. She may accept your tokens, but bribery isnt the way to win back love.
The vast majority of women want to be in a relationship with a man who will listen to what she has to say. Even if shes just making small talk, its important to her that shes heard. This doesnt mean you have to agree with everything she says. You just need to listen.
When asked if theyre willing to listen to their ex girlfriends, men who are trying hard to get back their ex often say Ive tried to listen, but she doesnt listen to a word I say. Sometimes when men think theyre listening, what theyre really doing is hearing the problem and then immediately talking back to offer a solution to fix whatever problem his girlfriend is having. He believes because she doesnt hear a word he says that shes not listening.
However, only hearing the parts of the conversation you think you can help her with and then trying to make her listen to you first is not the same as YOU listening to your girlfriends needs. Women appreciate men who listen to them. Unfortunately, men communicate in slightly different ways, which could probably have been a contributing factor to your break up in the first place.
If youre still thinking Im still in love with my ex-girlfriend and want to get her back, then practice listening. Ask her a question and then listen to what she says intently. Make a comment about her response or ask another question relating to her response, but dont try to fix it or dismiss it as unimportant. Simply listen to her.
Women assume that a man who listens to her really cares. It tells you that you understand and that youre really interested. The next time you receive an opportunity to get together with your ex, take some time to establish eye contact and really listen intently to what she says.
At first, you might find your ex-girlfriend is a little confused or guarded about your sudden change, but when she realizes that you are interested in what shes saying shell begin to relax and realize that you do care. Shell immediately begin wondering why her feelings for you went away and they should come rushing back when she understands that you really do still love your ex and really do want to get your ex back.
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