How to Make Out With a Girl in 40 seconds or less For Real

If you’ve ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn’t know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it’s magical or out of reach – a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it’s not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I’m going to break down those steps.
The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who’s really good with women and someone who’s not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who’s ready to make out.

How to Make Out With a Girl ?

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it’s true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.

You must know how to spot that woman who’s already in this “make-out ready” state, so you can walk up and be “that guy.”

Don’t buy into the myth that women don’t want this to happen.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this “turbo” make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn’t happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one’s approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you’re able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.

Let me explain… When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called “Eye Accessing Cues.” When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she’s accessing her emotional brain.

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If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she’s saying: “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.” And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn’t just use her eyes to look down), she’s physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn’t look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she’s meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.

Women who you’re going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That’s one quality which shows you’ll be able to quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she’s actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she’s not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It’s going to take much longer.

Again, you’re going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can’t just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she’s constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that’s a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they’re moving and how they’re dressed. Let’s say she’s standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It’s less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That’s because she’s standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she’ll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she’s dressed. If she’s dressed in a way that’s super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn’t the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention – not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who’s in between “I don’t care” and “Stare at my tits, bitch!” Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who’s in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don’t want to over dress or under dress, and don’t know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They’ll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That’s what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.

If not, I’d actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you’ve seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you’re going to walk up and start the scary part.
What To Do
This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It’s very, very important that you understand how to control someone else’s frame if you want to come across like you’re a pro at this.

By “frame,” I basically mean their “reality.” You’re controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.

I’m going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I’ll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it…

Here’s what I would say, word-for-word… Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, “Shhh?”

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, “Wait just one moment.”

You can also say, “Stop for one minute.” I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears “stop,” “wait,” or “don’t,” they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, “Don’t think of a black cat,” what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.

So if I said, “Don’t try to make out with me,” or “Don’t make out with me right now,” girls are going to be consciously hearing, “Don’t make out with me,” but their subconscious minds will be hearing, “Make out with me right now!”

You’re attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, “I should make out with this guy.”

Now, during frame control you’ll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.

Don’t try to seduce women who don’t want to be seduced. Again, that’s one of the reasons why it’s important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to “Shhh” for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with “don’t” or “wait” or “stop.”

My typical is “Don’t worry… right now.” That’s all I say. And I slow that speech down ? “Don’t?worry?……. right now.”

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, “You and I are going to have a secret. We’re going to secretly kiss and no one will know.”

And as I’m saying this, I’m leaning in… and you’ll be doing the same when you do it. You’re leaning in ever… so… slowly. At the same time, you’re looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.

This is called “Triangulating.” Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two… etc. Do that about three or four times as you’re talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn’t expect you’re going to get it perfect the first time.

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So again, you say, “We’re going to have a secret. We’re going to kiss and no one is going to know.” From here on out, you’re really just filling up space with words as you’re leaning in so you’re still controlling the interaction.

So you’re going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand ? whichever one is more accessible ? and reach around her back. You won’t pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.
Signs That It’s Working
Is she looking at your lips? If she’s looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she’s looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It’s a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that’s how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you’re getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she’s looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You’ll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.
!Important!
In a loud environment like a bar, you’ll want to speak louder, but don’t raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you’re going to keep talking… What I usually say is, “No one is going to see this. It’s just going to be our little secret. I promise I won’t tell anybody only if you promise that you won’t tell anybody either.”

As I’m saying this into her ear, I make sure that she’s feeling my breath on her neck. So I’m sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I’m speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you’re speaking really close to her ear, you’ll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you’re talking. Then you’ll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then… you’ll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck… then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds – I’ve done it in less time, and I’ve seen other guys do it, too.
Practice It
What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won’t use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it’s really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who’s in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she’ll be turned off and you’ve lost a golden seduction opportunity.

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that’s what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman… and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality… how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn’t turn off any of her weird alert switches… specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she’s totally in your zone.

What’s taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember ? it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

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Apology letter to ex after a breakup

I wish there were more sample letters like this out there. Its hard to figure out what you want to say to your ex, especially when you want to get back together.

Even harder, if youve been a little out of control -- like if youve been texting too often, or calling or driving by. You need to put a stop to all of that, and go NC (no contact) for a while until youre thinking straight again.

And you certainly need to apologize to your ex.

Even if you dont have anything to apologize for (and, well, are you sure about that?) a letter similar to this is still a good idea, to show that youre on board with breaking up. You wont get your ex back if you resist accepting the fact that you got dumped, no matter how unfair it seems.

But... to have to compose a letter when your heads a mess isnt easy. I think this example letter to an ex would be good for most breakup circumstances. You might have to change some parts, but its a good start.

-- Kit.

Letter of Apology to an Ex Lover - What to Say and How to Say It

By Dan K. Jenkins

When you look for advice on the internet about how to get your ex back, you discover that step one is to write a letter.

And you learn that it has to be a handwritten letter -- not typed, and not an email.

The purpose of the letter is to let your ex know youre sorry for whatever you did, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea. This letter sets the stage for everything youll be doing afterwards, to try to get back together.

Why apologize in writing?

A hand-written letter, sent in a hand-addressed envelope, is the most personal form of delayed communication you can use.

Spoken communication, in person or over the phone, is too immediate. With immediate communication, some response is required -- but your ex might feel threatened, or feel like theres not enough time to think of the right response.

Text messages and email are too casual. Even a typed or printed letter feels distant, compared to the intimacy of a handwritten letter you took the time to pen yourself. Your letter to your ex absolutely must be written by hand, and written on paper, not on a card. A card is, once again, too casual.

When to apologize?

Send your letter as soon as possible, but be sure to wait until after you have thought about your situation, and think you understand what your ex is feeling.

While you compose your letter, you should feel regret, not anger. If you are still angry, then it is too soon to write a letter of apology. It is too soon to say you agree with the breakup.

You need to be certain about what you are apologizing FOR. For example:

• Did you hurt someones feelings?



• Is someone angry at you?



• Is someone afraid of you?



• Are you ashamed of something you said or did?



• Did you lie, steal, or cheat?



• Did you forget something important?

Even if it was an accident, you should apologize. Even if it felt justified at the time, you should apologize. Even if you know that in the same circumstances, you would do the same thing again -- you still ought to apologize.

What should you say in your letter?

Your letter of apology to your lover needs to communicate two things: That you are sorry for whatever you did that caused your breakup, and that you agree that breaking up is a good idea.

Dont spend too much time explaining why you did what you did. It wont help, especially if it was a repeat occurrence, or if you did it on purpose.

Dont be funny, and dont be crude or obscene.

Dont ask for an acknowledgement -- no, "Let me know if you got this" or anything like that. You should be prepared not to hear back.

Example apology letter

Here is a sample letter to an ex girlfriend...

Dear Amy,

I have been thinking a lot about how I hurt you, and I want to say Im sorry. I understand why you dont want to be with me any more. I agree it is a good idea.

Being away from you is hard on me, but I guess that after time goes by I wont miss you so much. I hope, anyway, because I would hate to feel like this forever.

I know it was the last straw. I know you think you cant trust me any more, after what I did. But please believe my apology. You mean more to me than anyone else does. You are the one I love.

Maybe after you have had some time away from me, you will want to talk to me again. If you ever need me, I will be there for you.

Love,
Kevin


Learn more about getting back together with your ex. Visit The Online Guide to Getting Back Together and find advice from experts on how to get your ex to come back to you.

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How to pick up an ex girlfriend

One of the most painful things a man can experience in his lifetime is breaking up with a cherished girlfriend. Whether you saw it coming or not isn’t really important right now. Your heart is aching and you’re experiencing the feeling of intense loneliness without her by your side. This situation is severely impacting your happiness right now.

You’re probably sitting there trying your best to think of ways to get your ex girlfriend to come back to you. I’m sure your first instinct is to go on over to her house and try to reason with her so she’ll take you back.

Before you do something you’ll regret later, take a moment to consider some things first:

1) Are you focusing mostly on the breakup and not what caused the breakup?

Your gut is telling you to do something that will end this painful situation quick. I can see why you’d feel that way. Nobody likes feeling heartache. Your natural tendency is to focus on the physical separation between you two. Take a moment, though, to think about all the things that may have led to you two splitting up.

Relationships don’t fall apart for no reason.

What kind of problems were you having before things got to this point?

What did you argue about the most?

When did things turn from good to bad?

Answering these questions honestly will help you figure out what went wrong and how you might be able to improve those things and get back on track.

2) Realize that this is an opportunity for you to improve your life

Your mind is a powerful thing and you can control how you handle your current situation. Instead of depression and anxiety, choose to be empowered and enlightened. Everyone has something about themselves they can work on. Your broken heart can not only heal, but you can become a generally happier person if you choose to be that way.

Start paying attention to the way you look and feel everyday. If you can stand to lose a few pounds, then now is the time to focus on getting in shape. If you know you need to stop smoking or drinking too much, then now is a good time to work on these issues. If you want to expand your knowledge, then take a class or go to the library and borrow books on interesting topics.

Feed your mind and body with good things and you’ll be amazed at the response you get from your ex love.

3) Create a getting back with your girlfriend plan

There is no way you’re going to be able to force your way back into your girlfriend’s life by acting angry, phony, insincere, too needy or playing childish games. No, you need a real strategy for winning her back.

This is a woman that means a lot to you so you’re going to need a plan of action that will be tailored to getting her to see that you’re the only one who can give her all the love and attention she needs.

To do this, you’re going to have to be brutally honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses.

What do you have to offer her? What do you bring to the table? What is she really seeking in a lifetime partner? Your plan must take all of this into consideration in order for you to reach your goal.
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How to quickly get your ex girlfriend back

When reality sets in, and relationships end, you are girl may still have lingering questions if its really the end between the two of you.  Sometimes guys just cannot admit to themselves that their girlfriend dumped them and think that its never working out.  Well at least that was how I felt before.  Amidst all the confusion, hurt pride and longing, I only have one think in mind, "I want to get my ex girlfriend back fast and for good".

If you are like me, I dont give up just easily.  So, I gathered up whats left of my pride and laid out my plan to win back her heart and mind.  I told myself I am going to get back that kiss that once was mine.  I will take nothing less. 

In order to get back together with your ex girlfriend, there are numerous steps to take. Here are some of the tips that you should keep in mind when working through this process.

1. There is always a second chance for everyone, so its not impossible for you to get back together with your ex girlfriend. But first, you should ask yourself some questions Do you still love her? Do you really want her back? Why? Are you trying to get her back because you dont want to be alone, or you dont believe you should have been dumped? If you are looking to get back with your ex for reasons other than love, you may be playing a dangerous game that would be better off avoided.
2. Do not appear desperate or needy to your girlfriend if your priority is "how can I get back together with my ex girlfriend?" Although you may feel desperate, and you may really want her back, you absolutely need to control your emotions, keeping them to yourself. If you cannot help them, then it may be wise to talk to your friends or family so you can cry your heart out where she cannot see. Do not beg or cry in front of your girlfriend, however, and absolutely do not stalk her. 
3. Learn how to control your feelings, forgetting about self pity and instead working on the positive aspects of working things through with your ex. If you appear too needy, or if you come off as too desperate, she may end up avoiding you even more.
4. Keep the communication lines with your ex open. She may have ended the relationship, but you just need to make her feel like communication lines are open and that you want to be civil. You do not have to be the one initiating the conversation, but you should be willing to say hello and have a conversation occasionally with her, keeping in touch casually. 
5. Above all else, analyze what went awry with the relationship. There must have been a problem that led to the end of the relationship, so find out what the problem was if you want to get back together with your ex. Find out what caused the arguments, of which of her needs werent being met, and work on rectifying those issues.

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Understanding The Wife Husband Relationship

The wife husband relationship can be a complicated one. Many marriages fail because one or both partners don’t really understand the dynamic of the relationship. If even one person has a basic understanding of it, the marriage is bound to be stronger. But if both people understand how a wife husband relationship works, then it has the best chance of being a good marriage.
One of the keys to understanding the wife husband relationship is to realize just how different men and women really are. Aside from the obvious physical differences, the sexes are different emotionally and mentally, too.
When faced with a problem, for instance, men and women tend to approach it from completely different angles. Women are more likely to discuss it with other people. They might get advice and input from a few friends. It’s not uncommon for women to talk about the problem at length.
That’s because women solve problems when they talk about them. They explore all the angles of the issue and how they feel about it, and often in doing so a solution appears.
Men, on the other hand, tend to be more tight-lipped about problems. They think about it more than they talk about it. It’s more common for a man to ponder a problem and say little until he’s figured out the solution.
In the wife husband relationship this difference in problem solving can itself be a problem. He might think that she’s talking it to death when she should be trying to figure it out herself. And she might think he’s not even worried about something because he’s not talking about it .When in reality, it’s on his mind all the time and he’s just not pointing it out.
Sometimes, women tend to talk about things that they don’t necessarily want help with, or advice about. They simply want someone to listen to their opinion and thoughts. Where if a man is talking about something, it’s because he wants an answer.
If a woman is talking about something just to get it off her chest or vent, other women tend to get that and offer support. They don’t try to tell her what to do for the most part, but simply join in the conversation in empathy.
A man might simply state a solution and tell the woman what she should do, thinking he’s being very helpful and doing what he’s supposed to. But really, the woman will feel that he’s not listening and instead just trying to end the conversation.
Of course, not every wife husband relationship will happen exactly like these examples. Some men will talk out a problem and some women will be tight-lipped about it. But in general, the sexes can be expected to follow these typically patterns.
Understanding those patterns can help you stop yourself before you do something that’s natural to you. You can think about what your partner needs from you instead, and do that .Your wife husband relationship will be much stronger and happier because of it.
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How to reconnect with an ex girlfriend

As romantic as it may sound to you to want to reconnect with your ex girlfriend, you should probably be aware that there is no guarantee that she is going to feel the same way about things. While you might assume that she is going to be ecstatic that you are trying to reconnect with her, many men find out that this is not the case and if you go about things the wrong way, you can end up chasing her away. I am sure that you dont want to scare her off, so you probably want to know if there is a way to get back the woman you lost without making her run away from you. There is.

Why Would She Be Scared Off by You?

First though, lets talk about one of the most common reasons why a woman will feel like she has to run away from an ex boyfriend that is trying to reconnect with her. And that is - the guy usually makes things out to be more serious than he should. If there has been a buffer of time between the last time that the two of you communicated with one another, then you may want to be careful that you dont come across as being too serious when you do.

Think about things from her perspective on this one. She is going about her normal life, doing her normal routine and then... out of the blue you call her up and act all serious. What do you expect is going to run through her mind? She is probably going to wonder what you are up to and why you are trying to get back together with her now that she has gotten on with her life. That is probably going to make her very hesitant about wanting to reconnect with you and for you, that means that you are going to have another obstacle to deal with.

You dont want to bring that upon yourself. So, what you should do is to be very careful about coming across like you are reconnecting with her for the sole reason of getting back together. Make it seem like it is more about just wanting to reconnect and talk with her and that will probably give you a better chance of her actually feeling like she wants to reconnect with you as well. Once you do that and you build up some rapport with her again, THEN you will have your chance to think about escalating things to the point where you can get back together.

Take It Slow and It May Just Happen -

Its always a shame to lose contact with a woman that you still care about, but if you take precaution to make sure that you dont seem like the only reason why you want to reconnect with her is to get back together - you may just get your chance. And the cool thing about it is... it may then lead to the two of you getting back together after all.

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How to get over an ex girlfriend

This is the number one question I get asked most of the time – right after the question on how to win her back.

And it’s difficult to answer. How do you get over your ex girlfriend?

I guess that we have all been there at some point in our lives.

Relationship starts. Everything’s good. Suddenly, everything isn’t so good. And you break up. That’s life!

I have had my share of it, so I speak from experience here.


You have probably shared lots of good times, and now it’s gone.

No more holding hands, no more crawling in close when it’s cold outside, no more kisses under the moonlight, no more anything.

For some it’s easier to accept than others. But I don’t think anyone like breaking up.

For the first few days, after realizing the truth, you feel pretty awful. This is definitely the worst part of a break up, and also the part that defines your emotions for the next couple of weeks.

So how do you go about handling a break up?

 

As thoughts are really hard to control, I’ll give you a “timeline” for your emotions.

I know it might sound a little strange, but it’s how I personally handle the break up, and for that reason, I figure it might be useful for some people.

Here we go:

The first few days I cry my heart out. I let out all of my negative feelings, and do almost nothing more all day than to “think about her”. Whenever I try to slip in a positive thought, I’ll disregard it right away. It’s my privelege to be sad just a few days a year, I’ll explain why later on.

What’s really important in this phase is that you don’t talk to anyone about the break up. At least not more than something like “we’re not together anymore”.

Another really important thing to do is to stop listening to love songs. At this point, you will most likely identify with them, and I know from experience that this can really f**k up your emotions later on.

So just let yourself be as sad as you can, without talking to anyone, and without getting feelings from anyone else than yourself.

Afterwards, if you have followed my advice, you should almost be sick thinking about her. 3 days might not be a long time in a calendar, but in your head, it will almost feel like it’s ages ago you broke up.

You will start realizing that she wasn’t “the one” for you, and that you have your whole life waiting, along with millions of cute girls.

Over the next few weeks, you might have some reoccurring thoughts about her. That’s fine. As long as you realize how bad she was for you, and that you’re not going to get back together.

I think this is the part most guys do wrong. They keep thinking they can get back together, and this makes it incredibly hard to move on.

For a couple of days, try to just “get on with it”. Don’t spend time thinking about her, just live your life like you always have.

After a week or two, you’ll see that you do fantastic without her. You might not be completely “over her”, but you’re definitely on the right path to getting so.

Personally, after about 2-3 weeks, I completely stop thinking about her. Well, not completely, she’s still “my ex”, but I’m by no means sad about the fact that we’re not together anymore.

Soon, I’ll meet another girl, twice as nice, and it’s all uphill from here with happiness. Until we break up.
Life’s strange isn’t it?

General tips on handling the break up

• Stop stroking the banana fantasizing about her. It’s just wrong… AND it tightens your emotional bonds to her. Not good man!
• You’d be amazed what kissing a new girl can do. Start meeting new people as soon as possible.
• Accept that she wasn’t the one. She was just a girl, whatever your brain might tell you. You have a “her” hole in your stomach right now, and you probably think that only she can fill it. But what the hole really is is just a woman shaped hole, and any women can fill it.
• Take control of the situation. Don’t let her define your feelings, only you can do that.
• Start living again. After feeling down for a few days, a week, or maybe more, start living again. If you have always wanted to start playing tennis, now is the time to do it. Or start playing guitar, or start painting. Anything will work, just gain some kind of new passion, or relive an old one.

Why it’s important to be sad at first

 

This might not work for everyone, but I can only conclude stuff from my own experience, so that’s what I’m going to do.

The reason I choose to be sad at first, is to take control. It’s my choice to cry, she has nothing to do with it. Not directly, anyway.

In my opinion it’s really bad to try to run from your feelings, because you will feel sad. Best just to admit it and let it out.

After those few days, you will also realize that someone that made you so sad, wasn’t right for you. This is also important.

So now to wrap it up, I would like to know one thing.
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How to ruin an ex girlfriend life

Dear Dr Victoria… I split from my ex-husband around three years ago. We’ve both moved on but have remained great friends. At the moment I don’t have a boyfriend, but his new girlfriend has a real problem with our platonic relationship. She’s an absolute bitch.

My ex and I share lots of mutual friends and mix in the same social circle. We regularly chat on the phone, and meet up for drinks. She tells my ex that she likes me, but I know if this is a lie. She spreads rumours about me and puts me down in front of our friends. She even told a guy I was dating I had herpies. This isn’t true.

I really value my exes friendship and I love him dearly but not in a sexual way. I’m now at the end of my tether and am seriously considering ending our friendship. Should I walk away or stand my ground?


Dr Victoria says…This is a difficult situation, but I’m sure your ex-husband and your mutual friends have brains of their own and can come to their own conclusions about what’s going on here.  His new girlfriend is obviously insecure about the friendship you have with her boyfriend.

You could talk to her and reassure her that you’re just friends, but really I doubt it will change anything.  It could make her even worse as then her insecurities are being directly confronted and at present her unreasonable behaviour is protecting her from admitting to these insecurities.

I do think that you or your ex-husband should confront her over individual incidents.  If someone says you have a sexually transmitted disease when you don’t, you’ve got every reason to be angry and why shouldn’t you bring this up with her and ask her why she said it?  This is the only mature adult thing to do.

However, there’s no reason to store up all these incidents silently, allowing the resentment to build up until you end up criticising her for everything she’s ever done.  Deal with each incident as it comes up and keep a level head.

There’s no need to bad mouth her to anyone who will listen.  You want to appear as the calm, reasonable and rational person here.  If you friends are aware of the simple facts then they will come to their own conclusions.

Your ex-husband will also come to his own conclusions.  If she continues to behave in this way, especially spreading lies about you, I doubt she’ll be his girlfriend for much longer.

There’s no need to end your friendship with him either.  This is way too drastic and unnecessary.  Why cut off your nose to spite your face?  If things are getting tricky and causing you too much stress then you can always cool things down for a while and see him less often, but this is down to you.  If you end the friendship completely then there will be knock-on consequences for the whole social group.  If things truly are platonic now and you don’t have a hidden agenda, why shouldn’t you remain friends if you share the same social circle?

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Letters of Apology Examples of what to say to your girlfriend

Saying sorry to a girlfriend or ex girlfriend is something thats hard for a lot of guys. If you need help, take a look at this new series of sample letters for apologizing to a girlfriend:

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  Apology letter to girlfriend for being drunk
  
  Apology letter to girlfriend for being drunk: It's hard because usually, this isn't the first time something like this has happened.
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  Apology letter to girlfriend for cheating on her
  
  Here's a sample apology letter to a girlfriend for cheating. Your letter can be a little longer than this, but don't write pages of details.
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  Apology letter to girlfriend for not trusting her
  
  Apology letter to girlfriend for not trusting her: 'I don't want to spend the rest of my life making excuses for being jealous.'
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  Apology letter to girlfriend for hurting her feelings
  
  Apology letter to girlfriend for hurting her feelings: You didn't really mean anything by it, but she overheard it and now it's a big deal.
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  Apology letter to girlfriend for forgetting
  
  Apology letter to girlfriend for forgetting: What she's really worried about is your reliability.

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How To Win Love Back

Its easy to fall into routines and habits in relationships where we all end up taking what we have for granted. We simply expect the other person to be there until one day the relationship comes crumbling down around you. Fortunately learning how to win love back is easier than most people believe.

The problem with most how to win love back tactics is that they dont take into consideration the primary differences between the way men and women think. Women will try very hard to make their man understand how much they love him and need him, while men view actions as speaking louder than any words you can say.

If youre serious about learning how to win love and get your ex back, then youll need to spend a bit of time removing the words from your relationships memories and taking a look at what your actions were saying.

Most women can think of times when they were trying hard to tell their man that they love him and want him to stay. You know the words you said, but what did your actions say? To a man, you would have been showing him how upset you were and how hurt you were. In his mind, he would have been thinking that hes the cause of all your misery, so youd be better off if he just broke up with you.  This means all your reassurances of how much you love him actually pushed him away!

Think about all the times where you both argued and got angry. Your words might have been trying to make him see reason and understand your point of view, but your actions were telling him something very different. Your man wouldnt have heard the words you shouted at him. He would only have seen a very unhappy woman who really wasnt happy with the man before her. His mind would instantly have thought he was the cause of your misery and hes believe its easier to break up with you rather than keep making you so unhappy. The same thing is true if you give him the silent treatment.

When youre learning how to win back love, you have to realize that your actions will speak far louder than any words you can say. Your partner wants you to be happy. He also wants to believe youre happy when youre spending time with him. The best possible way to show him that hes the right man for you is to go out and work on your own self-confidence levels.

When you feel happy within yourself and youre confident and brimming with life, youre irresistible to the man who fell in love with you. After all, when the relationship was still new and exciting, you were both bubbly and happy and pleased to spend time with each other. This is the version of you your partner fell in love with.

Spend some time working on things that make you happy. Hang out with friends or take a walk to clear your unhappy thoughts. Watch a fun movie and then suggest that you catch up with your man over a friendly cup of coffee. Your actions will show that youre a more pleasant person to be with and his feelings will start to re-kindle as though by magic.
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New article in the How to Survive an Affair section

Excerpt from Cheating hurts: He doesnt understand how I feel after his affair...

"Its like he doesnt understand at all. He acts like Im the one whos killing our marriage because I wont let it go. He thinks its over and done with and in the past, and I should just move on like he has. Make like its no big deal -- but I cant. Why doesnt he understand how much it hurts? How can I communicate to him what hes done to me?"

Could those words be yours?

Do you feel like, even though youre still living with your husband after he had an affair, your marriage might not recover because he hasnt acknowledged the injury hes done to you?

Read the complete article...
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How to diss your ex girlfriend

Who does not make mistake while in relationship?  Honestly, everyone does.  Undeniably we all learn from mistakes.  You have just broken up with your ex-boyfriend and now you realized that it is because of a silly mistake you have made that caused the break up.  You want him back desperately but how?  The worse is he is now seeing another woman soon after the break up, you are in a more difficult situation.  However, difficult does not mean there is no way of fixing thing up.

First of all, what you must do is to call your ex-boyfriend up personally.  Express your feeling to him, avoid crying as you might not be able to continue the conversation if you start crying non-stop.  Tell him that you are sorry, and let him know that you admit your mistake and willing to change.  Promise him that you will not repeat the same mistake anymore.  In the meantime, be alert on his reply to you, try to understand what he wants to convey to you.  If he still has feeling with you, then you can get him back very fast.

It is possible that he tells you he has moved on and dating a new girl.  However, you must analyse carefully to see whether he is just trying to make you jealous or he actually means it.  If he is doing for the purpose of making you jealous, you can just admit to him that his plan works and you are willing to get back with him without the need to continue his plan.

On the other hand, if your ex-boyfriend has really moved on with his new life with a new girlfriend, you will have to put in more efforts to get him back.  Before you take any action of getting him back, you need to know from him if he is still interested in you (a little bit will do) or he just wants to be friend with you.  If he just wants to be friend with you, then do not beg him nor force him to be with you again.  Most importantly, do not act like an uneducated woman in front of him towards his current girlfriend.  That will only make thing worse.

When he tells you that he really wants to move on with his new girlfriend and ask you to accept the break up, remember not to overreact in front of him.  Just accept it calmly and he will respect you.  In addition, he might have done so just because he is still mad at you so give him some time to release his anger and he may go back to you after he thinks through.

During the period soon after break up, you got to do your part too.  You shall not waste time doing unnecessary things such as crying hysterically, throwing things and spoil them, shouting at the walls etc.  If you really want him back badly, you must be patience and keep up the good virtues.  Be a happy-go-lucky woman, move on your life with your bunch of friends.  Go to gym, this is always one of the best ways to release your tension and sadness.  Keep yourself busy but not asking you to get drunks in pub, that does not help.  Do all the good things that your ex-boyfriend will really like to see.

Show to him that you are a better woman now and you will be a better girlfriend too.  Try your best to make him fall in love with you again.  His current girlfriend might not turn out as good as he thinks.  When you have done your part for being a good woman, he will start comparing and know who is more suitable for him.  These effective tips are very practical when you apply them accordingly.  In addition, you also need to prepare yourself in being a better woman to get your ex-boyfriend back faster.
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How to act around an ex girlfriend

Have you been exploring distinct approaches to act about your ex, but none seem to be functioning? Effectively lucky for you personally, there are numerous things you’ll be able to do to get you feeling self-confident when you are around your ex girlfriend. Comprehension tips on how to act about her will probably take several easy steps.

Act RationallyWhen you are around her, you should never act out of nervousness or anger. Rather, you ought to constantly act rationally and also have a calm perspective. You constantly want to be positive that you avoid stating or performing the incorrect things. Your frame of mind is going to present a whole lot about who you might be as a person.

Ensure She is PreparedYou may try every thing in your power to get her back, but absolutely nothing is going to function unless she is prepared. If she shows no signs of being prepared, you may possibly desire to commence planning out your next move. By doing this when she is ready, you will be ready and know how you can act.

Don’t go Near HerThis indicates that you must cut off all get in touch with with her for awhile. No telephone calls, and no communicating with her. Don’t bother going close to her, simply because she will likely be expecting you to attempt to contact her. This can be going to leave her guessing about why you have not produced any try to be around her.

Quit Moping AroundFeeling sorry for yourself, want change the truth that your ex girlfriend is gone. You should an work to be pleased, and take pleasure in your self. She is by no means heading to except that you really can transfer on and also have a good time. Show to her which you nonetheless can, even with out her.
Be Her BuddyYou don’t wish to grow to be her enemy, which can be why it’s essential for you to nonetheless be her friend. When she needs your assist or someone to talk to, make certain you’re the 1st individual she goes to. That is heading to make your closer, and can show her that you might be caring.

PatienceThere is no level in attempting to force her to become with you. Endurance will be the only factor that’s heading to help you by means of this method. You’ll want to realize that she will probably take as a lot time as she requirements. The important thing is for you to exhibit her that you are able to wait as long because it requires.

By no means Commence Another Romantic relationshipCreating your ex girlfriend jealous by starting a romantic relationship with a person new, will only backfire on you. If you are serious about her, you need to put all of your focus on her. You also will likely be the 1 who ends up hurt, as well because the other person you might be with.Pay Close Attention HereTake few minutes to read the next page and you’ll discover a stunning psychological trick which will show you- How to Captivate a Man, Make Him Fall in Love with You – and Give You The World. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page right now
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How to talk to your ex girlfriend

Everything started for me in this very forum. I cannot appreciate all the good literature I came into contact here, especially from Savoy, Braddock ... the Beatrice post ... the Ex-girlfriend post ... "how to recuperate after fighting with a girlfriend post" etc

Everything started for me here and thats why I love it here. And Im so proud and thankful that I did very well with my ex-girlfriends.

I didnt get laid. If you are judging everything through if Im getting laid or not, I must be a failure. But Im really happy because I handled myself with confidence and poise.

Theres two ex-girlfriends on my college campus. I hadnt talked to them for over 8,9 months because I was away from college on an exchange program to Japan. So when I came back to campus, I was a little nervous. Yes, I had learned a lot of new stuff about attraction but wouldnt I change back into that needy, stupid little AFC that I was when I was with them??

WRONG FUCK THAT SHIT WOOHOO

Ex#1 is a HB8.0. I came across her one weekend at a club on campus. I was having a blast at the club like I always do and caught her kinda looking bored and with a couple friends standing around the dance floor. I approached her with energy and excitement.

Me: Hey!! HB!! Long time no see right!?
Ex#1: (smiles) ohh hey!!! yeah long time no see!
Me: I didnt expect to see you here. You look good!
Ex#1: haha thanks! you too!
Me: oh you know me! I always look good! Lets dance! (grab her hand)
Ex#1: ohh ok!! (giggles)

I tear apart on dance floor with energy so I was just making her laugh the whole time and she started grinding on me. I was like "shit where did you learn that!" haha .. the thing is, when we broke up, i was really immature and needy so I didnt expect to talk to her ever again because she was pretty disgusted and disappointed in me. But not seeing each other for almost a year and me coming in with NO AWKWARDNESS and just energy and confidence is what changed our interaction. I told her later "hey lets get dinner together later!" and she was like "sure!" and we met up for dinner a couple weeks later.

She was kinda being a bratty little bitch at the dinner. I mean, my humor is great so I made her laugh a few times but she wasnt being very good company. HAHA what was the most fun was when she said "You developed a different persona since you came back from your study-abroad in Japan and Im not the only one who thinks that!!" I was like HAHAHAHA and then she was like "yeah you are all big-headed now ... like a tool! or a .. a douchebag!!" HAHAHAHAHAHAHAA AWESOME

Whatever. I made fun of her, pushed her around a little bit, made jokes about her still being a virgin. She was like "I mean, yeah, but I feel bad for girls who have sex all the time. Im saving it up for somebody special and ... and If I were a guy, I wouldnt like a girl whos fucked 3,4 guys before her anyways! Im so much better than them" I was like "HAHA WTF? I dont fucking care about that. Who cares? A girls sexual experience has nothing to do with me. If she is cool, fits with my personality and good at sex, what more can I ask??" she started getting pissed after that so I just kept making fun of her more and I just had a blast. She was pissy at first but started laughing later in the night. We said goodbye and I dont expect to see her around that much. I realized how much I had grown from the last time I was with her, how nervous I was when talking to her during dinner ... hahaha ... the funny thing is, while I was walking home with her, I realized how not-that-attractive-than-I-used-to-think-so she was. She looked shorter, less pretty than I used to imagine her. Huh, funny that. Eh, I can do better.

Ex #2. She was my beatrice. Physically she is only a 7 but she understands my humor better than anybody.

When you meet your ex-girlfriend for the 1st time in a long time, you have a choice. You can either make it extra-awkward by being shy, self-conscious or needy and desperate or something along those lines. WTF? Why? I would rather make her miss me by making her think about how happy and cool and funny i was when I was with her! Thats what I did.

We had such a great dinner together. Whenever I say something funny, it hits with her all the time. We just started joking around as soon as we met at night and at the end, we were shoving each other, hitting each other, laughing, singing ...

The point is not to try-hard but just be yourself and free and funny. Why would this be hard? you did it with her when you were having a relationship together right?

I told her at the end of the night "looks like you are happy with a new boyfriend and Im happy for you. I dont plan to show up often in your life. But I dont like burning bridges. If you ever want to talk to me again, let me know" she smiled and said "you too ... I had a good time. I will call you"
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Get an ex back using reverse psychology

I was reviewing statistics for the main site today, and was surprised to find that the most popular article is How can I use reverse psychology to get my girlfriend back?

I never would have expected that, and it makes me wonder whether it would still be true if the title referred to getting an ex boyfriend back.

I mean, is it a "guy" thing? Do guys want to psych their girlfriends out, more than women do?

I guess I could find out by publishing an article called "How can I use reverse psychology to get my boyfriend back?" -- but it wouldnt add much value to the site. The information in the article thats already there applies to boyfriends just as much as it applies to girlfriends.

And the searches that drive readers to the article arent always about getting back an ex.

Sometimes its "My girlfriend uses reverse psychology on me and I dont want her to."

Sometimes its about using reverse psychology on women, in general. Like, how to use reverse psychology to get a girl, or on a wife.

It bothers me some, that there are so many queries amounting to "how can I trick her into doing what I want." I wish people understood that trickery doesnt build healthy relationships.

But at the same time, I understand that when youre desperate to get your ex back, you want to use any tool at hand.

Food for thought, I guess.
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How to just be friends with your ex girlfriend

In most relationships, the time to say goodbye usually arrives at one point or another -- unless you intend to walk down the aisle, of course (and even then...). With your ex, youve shared memories that will either make you laugh or cry, and its time to take your experiences, put them in your back pocket and move on. But somewhere on the road of parting ways couples feel the need to promise to stay friends -- which ultimately leads to more broken promises.

So, can you ever be friends with your ex? Does it have to be all-or-nothing?

 

Comfort zone 

 

Although it would make things much easier in the dating world, relationships rarely see mutual breakups. One person is usually the heartbreaker, while the other mulls over the breakup for weeks, even months. Its never easy to break up with someone youve shared good times with (and even if they were bad times, they were still times).

But the person who does the breaking up feels like less of a bad guy by offering that sense of truce: "Its not you, its me. We can still be friends." This peace offering of friendship provides the dumper with the solace of knowing they arent such a horrible person because they still want to be friends with their ex. 

 

Ive created a monster

 

Not only does it give the dumper the comfort of knowing they arent monsters, but by wanting to remain friends, it also allows the dumper to feel that their former lover will still be in their life, and they wont have to miss having them around.

So now the dumper can move on with their life with ease, and with the pleasure of having coffee with their former mate every so often. The person who got dumped, however, has the pleasure of being constantly reminded of the person who ripped out their heart when they receive friendly messages and e-mail.

Obviously, these messages on the machine and coffee dates dont last long, and if they do, they end even worse than the breakup.

So, having considered all this, can you ever be friends with your ex? We say no. Find out why. 

 

exes must stay that way because

Youve seen each other naked

Although it may be possible to have casual sex with a friend, even this can damage a relationship. As hard as it is to accept, its difficult to bring a relationship back to its normal state after having been intimate with someone. You will always have an image of that person naked, and memories of the trysts will always be triggered by the smell of her skin or perfume, or even by hearing a song that you once made passionate love to.

And as thick-skinned as you are, its hard to see the person in the same light after being entangled in each others skin and sharing a moment of sheer ecstasy with one another.

Can you ever be friends with your ex? We say no, and we have more reasons...

You cant confide in each other

As hard as two exes try to stay friends, they can never really confide in each other. How do you tell your ex that you have a hot date tonight or that you and your new lover are going away on a steamy getaway? You cant even tell your ex that the reason youre smiling so much is because a woman has just pleasured you like never before.

You can tell her these things, but new lovers and mates are always going to be a sensitive issue. Its even harder to tell her how hurt you were that your date stood you up the other night, thanks to your sense of pride.

Remaining friends seems to provide us with the security blanket that the person who has been in our life will still be there, and we can call on them every once in a while to find out how they are, however, well never actually know how they really are.

There will always be one-sided bitterness

Since breakups are rarely one-sided, one party will always feel resentment or bitterness toward the other. Even if your ex is feigning friendship, shes not sincerely your friend. If it seems like plans with your new potential woman are always being sabotaged, they just might be.

Jealousy comes into play

And where theres bitterness, theres jealousy. And the truth of the matter is that its hard to be sincerely happy for your ex when shes just found the new love of her life.

You dont want them with anyone else

Its human nature to be jealous or resentful when our ex finds a new person to cuddle up to, even if our feelings have somewhat faded. It becomes a race of who will find the new lover first, a challenge especially brought on by the person who was dumped. Even for the person who did the breaking up, the thought of someone else taking your place in the memories that you and your ex shared is hard, and sometimes extremely painful to fathom.

Passion still exists

Even if your relationship was completely problem-ridden, chances are that the passion and sexual chemistry between the two of you still exists (unless lack of attraction was the reason for your breakup). This is a recipe for disaster because it means that every time you get together under this new "friendship" premise, the lust and passion you have makes it more likely that youll end up in "one more" night of unbridled "goodbye" sex, for old times sake. This brings you right back to square one -- how you felt right after your breakup, and just when you were doing so well. 

 

moving on 

 

Leaving the past behind is hard enough, and you dont want part of your past still programmed in your cell phone. Although its easier for the dumper, recovering from a breakup is still a hard thing to do since it means being single again, getting back into the dating scene and no longer making that daily goodnight call you and your ex used to share.

But having that person lingering in your life as a constant reminder makes it even harder to move on with your life, meet new people and turn a fresh page. Its almost like keeping one foot in the past, and another struggling to make it back into the pickup scene.

It also might be a better idea to leave things with pleasant memories of the other person, rather than drag the potentially doomed relationship through the mud.

In a perfect world, the ideal would be for exes to succeed at being friends, but in one where bitterness, jealousy, passion, and human nature exceed reasoning and rational thought, its impossible. Unless the two of you were the best of friends before, both broke up on the same terms in a perfectly mutual breakup, both have no qualms about either of you seeing new people, and have both instilled a policy of total honesty, youre better to leave the friendship behind... along with the memories.

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Past Regression A Life Enhancing Process!

By Lesley Lockwood

More and more people these days are starting to believe in the possibility of reincarnation. With different techniques that help you to recall your past lives available, it can get tricky trying to choose the method that best suits you.

A good tool that can prove very beneficial when referred back to is a journal. In your journal you will need to record all your thoughts and feelings. Even those that seem inconsequential to you at the time. You also need to write down any emotions that you may feel, as it is generally believed that emotions are a strong link connecting us to our past life or lives. Do not forget that even something as unimportant as an irrational fear of cracks in a sidewalk can prove very useful and need to be made a note of in your journal.

Begin your journal with a thorough and comprehensive description of yourself, from your likes and dislikes to your preference for one culture over all others, your desire for a particular climate, and even if you have a particular affinity to a certain period in history. Include information on your fears, your favorite food, animals that you feel drawn to, etc. It is important to be thorough as there is no such thing as useless information in this regard. Discuss your particular talents if you possess any and describe what they are. In short, tell your journal everything about yourself, about your personality and whether you experience things such as deja vu. Write it all down.

Your dreams also give clues in your past life. But keep in mind your dreams contain things from your present life as well but write it down anyway.

There exist another method called past life regression.

This involves a visit to a professional past life regression therapist. They are trained to guide you through the regression and then with your help interpret what information that came through. This technique involves the professional doing hypnosis. Sometimes this can be done by self-hypnosis.

Many people choose meditation as their preferred method.

This is a private technique so therefore many people have a hard time in trusting what they receive. With meditation, it is important to trust in your instincts and feelings.

While meditation may feel like daydreaming to you, something of importance may come through as images start to flow through. Your journal maybe of help here too.

Things to help you in your meditation maybe things like music, a visual focus point or burning a pleasant smelling incense or a combination of them. Prerecorded guided meditation tapes maybe what you need or a soothing sound like water will be of help. If that isnt helping this may.

Binaural Beats

Binaural Beats is an audio recording that allows you to listen to different frequencies in each ear which aligns the two hemispheres of the brain. Using this tool can assist you in achieving the same meditative state that Zen monks reach. It is important that you choose somewhere quiet and free from distractions when you meditate. You need to ensure that whether you are lying down or sitting that you are completely comfortable and relaxed.

Keep a positive state of mind and do not allow yourself to be distracted by any thoughts about your daily life. Although it might happen until you gain more experience with meditation. Instead of being completely side tracked try to make a note of it and then put it out of your mind. One thing that you need to remember is that meditation takes practice so do not give up when nothing seems to happen in the beginning. It is when we achieve a proper meditative state that questions will arise, just be prepared to find the answers when you are not expecting to.

Among other things this method can also assist you with regards to issues you are faced with in your present life, including relationship issues. You might, like others have, discover that you have shared lives with people in past lives that you know in your present life. A bit of research will confirm, or not, the information you received.

Within many religions, the idea of reincarnation is accepted, albeit in some more so than in others. Some believe in it so much that they also believe that whatever choices you make, or whatever you do in one life will affect your next life, too. So whether you have done positive or negative things, you will experience the consequences if not in your current life then in the next. This is not necessarily a wrong belief, because once you have discovered what happened to you in a past life, it can be beneficial to you in your present one.

As with many things it is important that you keep an open mind about what you discover. You need to be able to accept the information you receive about your past life, because that will enable you to not only learn from past mistakes, but also afford you the opportunity to correct them in your current life, making it better than the previous one.

Sometimes it happens that the subconscious might be blocked but it can be unblocked successfully to receive the information that comes through past life regression. Despite the fact that some people experience a blocked subconscious, the experts still maintain that past life regression can be very beneficial to the present life. But besides the unblocking of the subconscious, there are other benefits as well.

Practically speaking, past life regression enables you to identify those things you did in a past life that resulted in negative consequences and not repeat those same mistakes. It is important for the well-being of your present life that you address the issues from the previous ones.

Being able to see what you were or like in the past may help you see a hidden talent that was just waiting to be brought to the front and so help you live a richer, fuller life now. This will also help you have a much better understanding of yourself. If something about yourself that was a mystery before like say singing, maybe you were a professional singer in a past life. And so that talent is coming out even if no one else in your family can hold a tune.

Past life regression allows you to get to know yourself better, thereby making better decisions and choices n your current life. Therefore it is beneficial to investigate it further, as it helps you to discover just who you are and why you are the way you are. - 30535

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How to handle an ex girlfriend

I came here wanting an opinion of maybe some people that have been in my shoes. I dont think my friends understand the situation and have really done a great job just making me move along, but they dont feel what I feel.

Here it is.... I worked with a girl when I was a Sophomore in College and she was a Senior in High School. We knew each other since she was 16 and never really thought about dating at all since she was very young. As time progressed and she got older... I got to know her really well. We went on a trip together as friends with no plans and we really hit it off. Long story short, we spent a lot of time together over the summer before she left to go to college out of state and we decided there was a bond and we would try to make this thing work long distance

Lets cut to the chase, the relationship was great.. GOOD COMMUNICATION the whole time, I was really close to her family and would eat dinner over there even without her. My parents treated her so well and they would even text her once in awhile. it was great besides the distance. We made it work, we would see eachother every month 1/2 around and we stayed positive knowing at one point we would be together. We never fought and we had a TON of trust. 2 years went by like this with no problem.

THEN... she moved in with 7 other people and I trusted her but they became the "party house." She never really had a period of time to let loose i guess and party it up. She stayed at my house for a month this past summer and i think the commitment scared her off. She met some guy she had feelings for, told me about it and was very open. She didnt cheat, she explained she felt weird and for the first time she didnt run off when someone hit on her like she usually would. It got her so confused and crazy and eventually I ended it. It was hard on both of us... this was in Sept.

Now, November rolls around and she notices I am with another girl. I am sure she got jealous, maybe thought I would wait around while she figured stuff out... but i didnt. I moved along... I kept communication open with her and said now is not the time. She still is in school for another yr and a half. She writes me a letter saying how she made a mistake, she loves me, im the one she wants to marry etc. I sent her a text saying I will take it to heart. She then writes something like, "I meant every word, I dont know whats wrong with me." I then flew to her state to see a mutual friend and she found out and sent me a text saying it was weird i was in her state and I didnt tell her so obviously I dont want to see her. She said she is going to stop contacting me now for now on and I should enjoy my stay.


Look, I still love her to death, i know deep down she is the one but maybe got blinded like i said with some influences from her friends. I did not respond to her last 2 texts out of respect to my new partner (we are not official but we act like it as of right now). Things are good, but i also feel bad not texting her back. She basically left me for another man and states she loves me still and all this stuff but then doesnt act on it. I even told her if it was me in her situation, I would have been at her door asking to talk.... nothing. I told her last time we spoke on the phone that we need to support eachother and i forgive her for what she did but dont know if I could forget. I love her and her family so much but I just feel like she might be playing games and not even knowing it. I feel she shouldnt want to see me and should put that effort into her new man that she chose to have relations with. I just want to shake her and guide her but I know I can not be the one to do that. How should I approach this with her contact. She says she doesnt want to contact me again but I know she will. Is she just young? Not contacting her the best thing?

Please help guys and girls!

Thanks
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How To Win Ex Girlfriend Back With An Apology

No doubt all you can think about now shes walked out on you is how to win ex girlfriend back.  Possibly you didnt realize that you loved her, or perhaps how much you loved her, until she walked out on you and now youre in pain and desperate to figure out how to win ex girlfriend back. You will be able to get your ex back.

Well heres some information that will help you as you try to figure out the right moves that will help you get her back in your arms.

You might have made some mistakes, weve all been there, so dont beat yourself up!  The most constructive thing to do right now is not to try and rewrite history, instead you need to figure out how to step up and find a way to write the future for the two of you, that you want. 

If you need to apologize for anything that you did wrong, then get ready to do so.  What you should also do, is to make sure that you understand why youre apologizing.  Dont just go through the motions of an apology because you think its what she wants to hear.  No, look at the behavior that shes objecting to and try and understand her point of view.

The apology that you now come up with has to address two points if youre serious about figuring out how to win ex girlfriend back.  Make sure that you use the apology to convince your ex girlfriend that you have completely understood her point of view and also that youre one hundred percent ready to change that behavior.

It will be great if you have previously come up with a plan to prove to your ex that youre rally serious.  By that I mean do you need to go and talk to a professional about your behavior?  Well then make the appointment and make sure that you have actually attended a few sessions and are committed to continuing to talking to the professional.  Just a word of warning, if youre not sincere in this, youre wasting your time even trying to fool your ex girlfriend.

If you cheated on her, then try and figure out why you cheated.  Again, you cant rewrite history, but if you can begin to figure out what brought you to the point of cheating, then the next time you find yourself in that situation you will have a real shot at avoiding it.  Explain your thought process to your ex girlfriend and own your behavior.

When you go to talk to your girlfriend, as you attempt to answer your question how to win back ex girlfriend, make sure you give her space to say what she has to say and listen with sincerity.  Do all of the above and youre well on your way to getting her back.
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How To Really Love Your Spouse

By Carol Ann

How do I love thee let me count the ways? Well, ask yourself honestly are you doing enough to love your spouse? The answer is probably not. Life is busy, even chaotic at times and it is very easy to get wrapped up in the everyday happenings of life. It is easy to take your spouse and their love for you for granted. But this can be the source of many marriages becoming dull and played out.

In order to have a marriage that truly is "till death do you part" you must invest in your relationship. You can accomplish this by doing whatever it takes to make it successful. This could mean taking a day off to spend with them, or planning a surprise getaway weekend where you spend the day together in bed. You can also do little, simple things such as leaving a note in their car or lunch or planning a romantic meal and having it waiting when they come home from a tough day.

Finding special ways to make your spouse realize how important they are is one of the most important things that you can do to keep your marriage on track. Letting them know that they are the most important thing in the world to you, is one of the keys to a happy and successful marriage.

A marriage requires nurturing in order to grow. If you show your love for one another and make your marriage the top priority on your life, then you will have the tools you need to overcome any problems that try to creep into your marriage. With a nurtured marriage you will be able to face problem head on and overcome them as a team, before they get a chance to destroy all that you have worked for with your spouse.

Marriage is more than a partnership it is romance that must go on and on. Treating your spouse as a lover and a best friend is the key to making your marriage the most meaningful relationship in your life. People will envy the love that you share if you take a little time out each day to devote to showing your spouse how much you love and care about them. It is truly amazing how just a few little ounces of effort a day can add up to a lifetime of happiness. - 30535

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